It is rare, if ever, that I have been happy with a photograph of myself. The photo above is the closest I have ever come to being happy about the way I look. Especially after the year I have had! I am thankful for all of the comments and compliments I have been given on it. I have even taken steps to get a copy so that I can have it framed and displayed in my home. Seeing the abundance of great and the flowing rolls at my waist gnaws at me, but overall I am happy with it!
When I see myself in the mirror, I don’t see the same individual who was there before my illness. And while friends and family tell me that what I see is not what they see; I have still felt like the lead in a Hans Christian Anderson story — you know the one about the duck.
Recently, I was introduced to a woman who has just been diagnosed. We have spoken several times over the last few weeks, and her story has touched me. She is further along than I was, and her chemo regime will be more stringent than mine; but I believe she will be fine in the end. I think she sees that now, as well. Her voice today was much calmer and more sure – which was a relief. I was concerned that her fears could become an obstacle for her, and could cloud her capacity to gather the information she needed.
She told me of some good news that she had gotten. Awesome, I thought! Then she wanted to know about my weight gain. She had asked me this several times during our talks. I told her honestly that I have “packed on the pounds (30 to be exact). I know it sounds weird that I gained weight during chemo but I did…Anyway, I know that much of what I said was helpful, but she was still focussed on the weight gain. So here is what I said. “If it is weight gain you want to focus on – you can. But focus on the fact that after you are done with all of your treatments and healthy again…you will have a new project…getting back in shape. Keep thinking about the future and what you need to do. Because no matter how you look at it…you are looking at your future – and that is a good thing. But when you have completed it all (the treatments I mean), don’t waste your time (like I have done) being unhappy with what you see in the mirror.
Because what you see is ALIVE AND WELL..and looking good in a photo or two will happen again!
7 responses to “Who’s that girl in the mirror?”
That girl in the mirror looks awesome.
Keep doing whatever it is you are doing.
When you are famous you are going to have great looking promo shots.
Love that picture of you. You look do beautiful and so relaxed!!
Hi , I am so proud of reading your comment because of your idea for continuing the life with accepting the such a big problem.I think there is so many beautifule things in the wourld that we can see them and hope to future is very important in
with the best wishes
Hi , I am so proud of reading your comment because of your idea for continuing the life with accepting the such a big problem.I think there is so many beautiful things in the world that we can see them and hope to future is very important in
everybody,s life. with the best wishes
Thank you Soussan:
and thank you for the good thoughts. I send you good thoughts as well.
I was captivated by how gorgeous you looked in the photo, truly touched with the ease and love you seem to share with your husband-it’s so obvious. I had to go back to the photo To see the rollls you referred to! The way you seem to be feeling, the love you are sharing and the confidence you are enjoying are far more evident!
Hello cancermom even though I don’t have cancer you have managed to change my fear about alot of things I was afraid of . Yes my sister has breast cancer but I have a total different outlook about it since I’ve been reading your blog truthfully it bothers me at time but overall it doesn’t at all . Your attitude makes me laugh and think alot I met you once or twice before you had your children you were Just dating that handsome husband of yours . I wish you could get on channel 7 or have a tv show I know the ratings will be high GOD BLESS you my sister I love you. Mr. Howie Simmons